Let's Talk About Words

     "Never fail to know that if you are doing all of the talking , you are boring somebody."                                                      -Helen Gurley Brown    I have written a number of posts discussing the importance of listening ; to yourself, to others and even listening to the sounds all around us. What about the value of talking ? Whenever I hear about two friends or two people in a loving relationship claim that they never fight, my first thought is "But do they talk?" Do they share their thoughts and ideas with each other? If one or both simply do not say the things that bother them, that is not a healthy relationship . One person doing all of the talking is not healthy either. I got divorced after only 11 years of marriage so others may think that I am not in a position to give others relationship advi...

    The quote by Dag Hammarskjold says, "The more faithfully you listen to the voices within you, the better you will hear what is sounding outside." He was a Swedish diplomat and Secretary-General of the United Nations. This sentence indicates that he valued the importance of  listening  to yourself. I would believe that during his life, he considered advice from others as well as offered some often. I feel that this quote also relates to how people communicate with one another, as well as hearing your own inner guidance. Often when I am at a meeting or in a discussion with someone, it is hard to stop talking, or even to stop thinking, and really listen to what others are saying. My mind comes up with responses and suggestions even as I am hearing them speak. I have read about a process of mirroring what others are saying to ensure that each person is listening when someone is expressing their feelings, ideas or thoughts. The purpos...