Let's Talk About Words

"The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort , that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers." -M. Scott Peck       The truth is that when my life is going well, I get lazy and put off following my dreams. Trouble and problems force me to change my life and pursue my passions. Discomfort can lead to happiness. Author Susan Marie Schulhof http://susanmarieschulhof.blogspot.com

    Buddha said, "Three things cannot be long hidden: the sun, the moon and the truth ." Everyone has their own interpretation of the truth, yet there is still a truth . We can ignore and pretend all we want, yet the truth remains. Nothing can be changed until we face life with honesty, whatever that truth may be. I can look at my past and learn.  I can choose differently in the present based on what I learned from the past . I can face the future with honesty and truth . Truth to me is that wisdom that comes from the depth of my soul , from the very best part of who I am. I choose to see the past, present and future with honesty . Read my words and see my quotes at http://susanmarieschulhof.blogspot.com

     "It is not the facts which guide the conduct of men, but their opinions about facts , which may be entirely wrong. We can only make them right by discussion," according to Norman Angell. It is difficult to understand another person's perspective of facts , but we can all interpret facts differently. A fact is defined as, "Something that truly exists or happened. Sometimes receiving more information regarding a fact can make your opinion of it change, that is why it is important to read and talk to others about situations, people and circumstances. Our thoughts regarding a fact can be skewed by events that happened to you, your own family, your job or many other factors. This is one of the reasons that the jury selection process is so difficult. The jury  members will be presented with facts, but each person will have their own opinion about the truth . There have been many times in my life that I have viewed the facts one way only to chang...

     "Listening, not imitation, may be the sincerest form of flattery ," according to Dr. Joyce Brothers. How often have you heard a parent, a teacher, a spouse or a friend say to you or to someone else, "That looks great" or "You did a wonderful job on that" even when it is not true? My answer would probably be often since we are a society of praise . I am not against compliments, but is the assessment true or is it said to placate the person or to only make them feel good? As an Early Childhood Educator, I have read studies that say if you praise too often and for everything a child does, they will stop believing you or get a grandiose view of themselves and their abilities. It is also an age old joke that a spouse should just tell their wife that they look great in everything so they don't get into trouble. As Dr. Brothers states, I want someone to listen and to really look at what they are praising me for; I don't want to be appeased nor c...

      Thomas Szasz was quoted as saying, "A child becomes an adult when he realizes that he has a right not only to be right but to be wrong ." I am not sure if a child becomes an adult by this realization, but I agree that everyone should learn this truth . We live in a society that expects perfection in school, in our looks, in our work and in our families. The list could continue. We desire this need to always make the right choice from ourselves and from others. I don't want to be wrong , but it is okay if I sometimes am. The world does not end when I am wrong, nor does it when my children and loved ones are. I want to take chances and try to make educated choices, but if I choose wrong, I want to feel that it is alright to choose again. I do not need to punish myself or even be disappointed. Being wrong reminds me of the corn maze at the pumpkin farm. I hate going in them because often the choice you make leads to a dead end or circles back to where you start...